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Sunday, April 15, 2012

More moving ...

Last week was a hectic week --I was in DC working on a client's move.

36 hours in three days.

Not typical but we had a small window to get it done.

During our work, the husband and wife learned a bit more about each other.

More than a few times, the wife would say, "I'm ready to let it go, but you'll need to check with _______. He really loves such and such."

When we checked with him, he was not attached at all and out it went.

And vice versa. The husband would remark, "Linens are her thing. I don't care about this but check with her."

When we did, she'd say, "If he's ready to let it go, so am I. I thought he liked that but I'm fine with it leaving."

Which freed them up to start asking questions of each other. Soon questions were flying around as things were uncovered.

"Can we finally get rid of this? I've never liked it."

And, "Can we get a new one of these when we get there? This one has never worked right."

We were all amused at the number of things that had insinuated their way into the home as a result of:

Cost -- it was free or a "bargain"
Source -- it was a gift, memento or souvenir
Inertia -- no one was clear on how it got there but once there, everyone just accepted that it belonged there

Over and over they were surprised -- both independent of each other and together -- at how much stuff they have.

"We did this already. We already purged a bunch of stuff. I can't believe there is still this much stuff here that we don't need."

By the time I left, their living room was filled with things to be given away or donated. A sectional, a cabinet of drawers and a shelving unit had been Freecycled.

The house looked comfortable and spacious and ready to be shown for sale.

Furniture had been identified to be moved and to be left behind. They were thrilled at how much stuff they had found to let go of.

And they were now looking forward to the move.

Along with all the stress that comes with moving, they were able to see the relocation as an opportunity for a fresh start.

They saw the freedom that comes with less.

Once again they learned: Lose the story, lose the stuff.